When Comfort Becomes Costly: The Price of Choosing Complaint Over Change
Every day, change moves forward. It’s unceasing — sometimes gentle, other times jarring. Yet many of us live in the tension of resisting change, preferring to complain instead. We protest what is, instead of stewarding what could be. And even in our complaints, something is changing: often, we are getting worse.
Because if we are not intentionally advancing — growing in character, faith, virtue — then the drift of decay happens. And what does it look like when we drift?
We open ourselves up to increasing fear, bitterness, division. We become more reactive, less reflective. We are more likely to blame others than search our own hearts. We lose the ability to see beauty, goodness, hope. We lose sight of what it means to be disciples of Jesus.
A Tragic Example: Charlie Kirk
On September 10, 2025, while speaking at Utah Valley University in Orem, Utah, Charlie Kirk was fatally shot during his “American Comeback Tour,” addressing a crowd under a tent with his signature “Prove Me Wrong” format. (PBS+5Al Jazeera+5Al Jazeera+5)
This wasn’t just another violent act. It was a stark illustration of a society unraveling in some places: one where anger, division, ideological extremism, and fear overshadow the pursuit of truth, love, and transformation. It’s a picture of what can happen when people choose complaint over correction, dogma over discipline, friction over reconciliation.
Why It Happens
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Fear of Change
Change demands risk. It asks us to admit faults, to repent, to stretch beyond comfort. Many prefer the drama of complaint — it’s familiar. -
Pride & Identity
Complaining is often safer: it affirms identity (“I’m right”), without asking me to grow. Change demands humility. -
Lack of Discipleship
When faith becomes checkbox or tradition rather than a formation process, the roots of our character stay weak. We aren’t prepared when the storms come. -
Unseen Cost of Doing Nothing
Every moment we choose inaction, we permit corrosion—in ourselves, in our communities, in our nation.
What Change Might Look Like
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Self-examination: asking, “Where am I stuck? What sins do I excuse? What relationships am I letting fray?”
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Purposeful growth: reading good books, praying, mentoring, stepping into discomfort instead of stepping back.
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Working for unity: choosing dialogue over diatribe; seeking reconciliation in places of conflict.
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Anchoring in Christ: letting His life, death, and resurrection shape how we engage culture and each other.
The Stakes Are Real
Because if we don’t change, the unraveling worsens. Violence increases, not just in isolated tragic shootings, but in the fragmentation of trust, in the silencing of voices, in tribalism. In a moment like the Charlie Kirk shooting, the cost is life. It reminds us how urgent it is that we who believe — who want to follow Jesus — choose a different way.
An Invitation
I invite you: don’t settle for complaint. Choose to be intentionally un-original in your improvement. Follow the way of Christ, who teaches us that transformation begins in the heart, ripples into community, and changes the world.
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